Ok, so you know I love Marriage Monday hosted by the incredible e-Mom. But I must confess this week's topic, sexuality, made me stop in my tracks. I'm a good Southern girl. We don't talk about such things 
Plus I know you. You are my friends and family. It's hard to talk about such a private topic knowing who is going to read it.
Then as I went through my day yesterday, a message began forming in my heart. I hope it makes sense once it's out in the open.
I have to confess that I don't always {like} my husband.
When I was first married, I never thought I would say those words. He was my knight in shining armor. I loved everything about him. I still love everything about him. But there are times when I don't exactly {like} him.
I think this is only normal. When two people live together for a long time, there are bound to be struggles. Truth be told, I bet there are times my husband doesn't like me either. I know me and sometimes I don't like me.
The challenge is not to let those momentary dislikes affect your relationship…including the bedroom.
How do you do that?
Recognize that they really are momentary dislikes
Often when I'm upset with my husband over something, it doesn't last long. He usually does something else that melts my heart. Then I end up forgetting what made me angry. To be honest, as I write this post, I can't even remember what happened yesterday to initiate it. Instead, I remember spending a day at home with my husband and it makes me smile.
Focus on the bigger picture
Yes, you might be aggravated with your husband for not putting his socks in the hamper. But is it really worth being angry over socks? Instead focus on what he does do right. He loves you unconditionally. He works hard to support your family. And he comes home to you every night. Those are what's important, not the socks on the floor.
Practice Forgiveness
When Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive someone Jesus responded, "seventy-seven times" (Matthew 18:22). Now I can't even begin to really break down the meaning of that verse. But I am pretty sure it means that everytime we are upset with our husbands, we're supposed to forgive them.
It's not always easy to forgive. We want apologies and flowers and promises of undying love. But that isn't reality. It's up to us to do the right thing and forgive. If you still feel the hurt, maybe it's time to have a heart to heart discussion about it. He might not even know that you're upset.
Reconnect
Intimacy never happens when we are upset. If you have forgiven your husband, it's time to forget his infraction. Leave it outside the bedroom door. There is truth to the old proverb, "Never go to bed angry". It's not fun to lay next to a person you don't like.
Instead take the time to refocus. Let go of the day. Let go of the stress. Talk to your husband. Spend time reconnecting as a couple. Remember what it's like to just be together. And remember what it is about him that you really do like and appreciate and love. Because that is what is really important…not the socks on the floor.
