My husband’s birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. We have a tradition of taking a trip to the mountains by ourselves for his birthday. This year I wasn’t sure we were going to make it.
We have something going on every weekend for the next month. But this past weekend didn’t seem like a good time. One of our cats is sick with a bladder stone and has to have surgery today. So money is extra tight.
After a stressful week and a frustrating morning, we both decided we needed a weekend getaway. We weren’t able to leave town until 6:30 that evening. But that didn’t matter. We went anyway.
We had a great time.
We drove. We hiked. We shopped.
…we spent time together…
…and had uninterrupted conversations.
There were no distractions to keep our minds occupied. All we had was each other for conversation. Because the cell phone signal is so spotty in the mountains, we didn’t even have internet distractions.
So do you know what happened?
We had time to talk through issues.
These were issues that had been buried for a while. If left unattended, they had the potential to hurt our marriage deeply. Now that we’ve talked through them, we know how the other feels and we can work to make our marriage better.
But that would not have happened if we hadn’t stopped what we were doing and made time for each other.
It made me realize that in the midst of our busy schedules we often forget to take time for relationships, especially the relationship with our spouse.
We think they will understand. We think they know how busy we are. And that may be true. But that doesn’t mean our relationship won’t suffer for it.
My friends, we can’t sacrifice our marriages on the altar of busyness.
It’s like the soil of a well tended garden. If it isn’t fertilized, the flowers won’t grow. And if we don’t take the time to fertilize our marriages, they don’t grow.
We might be ok for awhile. But then we slowly start to feel disconnected. That sense of disconnection can grow until we don’t know how to bridge the gap.
To keep that from happening, we have to invest in our marriages by spending time with our spouses. It doesn’t have to be a weekend in the mountains. It could be a dinner alone.
Maybe you have young children and don’t have a babysitter. That’s ok. Make a date to spend time together after the children have gone to bed.
It doesn’t matter exactly how you do it.
The point is to spend time together without distractions. Turn off the TV. Put away the cell phones. Make your spouse the center of your attention. Your marriage is worth the time and investment.
Don’t shortchange the most important human relationship in your life because of a busy schedule. The cost is too high. The sacrifice is too great.
“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine;” Solomon 6:3a
How do you make time for your beloved?